Thursday, October 25, 2012

Help! We have created a cosleeping monster

Yay! I am finally over the tummy bug!  Still haven't gotten my appetite back and am still crazy dehydrated but feeling mostly better!  Today I wanted to ask for advice from my lovely mommy pals! 

Jaxsen will be 1 year old in one week and is crazy spoiled and spends most of the night in our bed.  We moved his crib to our room a month or so ago hoping to get him used to sleeping in it again and then be able to move him back to his room by his birthday.  He is off formula and on milk now but still in a bottle.  I have tried to get him to drink it out of a cup but haven't had much luck.  Today I am seriously throwing away all the bottles and just gonna make it happen.  I know with Cloee she actually started sleeping better once we finally took her bottle away.
Yes they actually sleep like this most nights!

Jax has to be rocked to sleep, which isn't too big of a deal for the first time but then he expects it every time he wakes up, which is generally 3 times a night if not 5.  Once he falls asleep we put him in his bed and he generally wakes up within the hour.  At that point we are asleep and tired and end up picking him up and putting him in our bed.  If he is in our bed he seems to wake up less.  If he is in his crib he wakes up more often, some times he goes back to sleep if you pick him up and rock him other times you have to give him a bottle with water or milk to get him back to sleep.  

I am totally not into cry it out, especially since we have 2 other sleeping kidos and a small house.  I really want to get him back into his crib and out of our bed and eventually back into his room. I'm just at a loss... Do I keep offering him drinks at night to soothe him? Do I keep rocking him every time he wakes up? I know he has to learn to soothe himself but I just don't know how to get him there!  

We tried not picking him up and just patting his back and getting him back to sleep but that never works unless he is in our bed.  If he is in the crib he is just not happy about it.  He doesn't like being blocked off or confined at all. Which is probably why he doesn't like his crib very much.. ugh I just don't know what to do with him... I expected him to be grown out of this by now!  
What have you done with your little ones?  Do you have any suggestions, advice? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!!!  Thanks in advance!

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  1. I know the trouble, but that picture is too funny!!!

  2. Found you on the mommy brain mixer, commenting and following from
    I hope you'll come and do the same, thanks <3

  3. I know he is still young but when my son turned one we got him a twin bed. A twin and not a toddler bed because one of us would lay down with him until he fell asleep and then wed go to our bed and when he woke ul wed lay down again until he was asleep again and then back to our bed. Every night he would sleep a little longer between waking up and now he will rarely wake up at all. I dont think my son liked being confined in a crib either.

    1. That's what we did/do! Same reasons. Same routine :)

  4. I need advice too! My almost 10 month old falls asleep while being nursed and MUST sleep in our bed... I will check back for insight!

  5. oh yes, we had such a hard time getting our youngest out of our bed! Just keep doing what you're doing. Eventually they'll sleep though the night (I know that's not exactly what you wanted to hear but I don't think there's a magic formula) This too shall pass :)

  6. My daughter is 18 months and still sleeps in our bed. I've decided I prefer sleep over getting up and she doesn't wake up once if she is in our bed. And she is still on her bottle (only at bedtime). Everyone has told me to ween her according to the Farmer's Almanac. I'm going to give it a try.

  7. I have no advice for you but hang in there! This too will pass.

  8. Hang in there! The pictures are too sweet though. :) Glad you are feeling better!

  9. I feel for you!!! I know it's hard to help them grow out of bad habits when you see them so upset and crying. My son is a 1 1/2 and the best advice I ever got has saved us from co-sleeping. I was told "whatever way he falls asleep is exactly what he'll need to get back to sleep." (like if we adults wake up and can't find our pillow, we'd be mad and have a difficult time getting back to sleep.) So take some time to study his routine and one week at a time change a part of the routine, eventually you'll get him back in his own room and own crib. And you know he'll be maturing so much over the next few months it'll all click for him if you start now!!

  10. I have two boys (ages 7 & 4). Our 7yr old has been sleeping with us (well more just me now, hubby just can't sleep with him anymore cause he always kicks him so he sleeps in the "kids room). I know this is all my fault. When he was a baby I breast fed him and it was so much easier for me to feed him in the middle of the night if he was laying right next to me rather than get up and do it. I always thought that once he reached a certain age (like 2 or 3) he would go off into his own bed. No chance. We have bought him a cars bed to lure him...he said no and hubs ended up sleeping in it. I always said with the second he will never touch my bed and truth be told he hasn't. I've had him in the crib from day one. He’s 4 now and still sleeps in the crib except the crib is pushed all the way against my side of the bed (we removed one side and now its like his crib and my bed are connected). Recently we bought them bunk beds for their room & try to get them to go sleep together in the room. The little one seems like he would want to but the big one won't even talk about it. Honestly it doesn't bother me as much. It would be nice if my husband and I had a bed to ourselves but I know they will stop sleeping in our bed eventually and move out when they're big & I'll be sad that they're gone so I try to cherish all the times we have left that they are small.

    You could try to maybe attach the crib to your bed like I did with my second and see if that helps. Best advice…don’t give up! If you really don’t want him in your bed you have to keep trying. I gave up way too easily with my first. Hope this helps at least a little.

  11. I think your first step is trying to get him to sleep without rocking him all the way to sleep. I still rock my two year old for a bit and sing to her, but then put her down in her crib awake. I too don't like cry it out, and sometimes it means going back over and over and getting her settled again (trying not to pick her out of the crib, but sometimes we do), but most nights now are pretty good. Once he can fall asleep on his own, it should help with the night waking as he will be learning to self-soothe. Hope that helps.

  12. Hi! Linking up with the TGIF Blog Hop.
    You know, i have had 7 children and I co-slept and rocked all of them. Your little one is still so young! Wow, mine definitely didn't give up the bottle for another year and co-slept for about another 6-12 months too. It varied but to be honest, they will let you know and before you know it they don't want to sleep with you.
    If you really want your bub out of your bed, maybe try a toddler bed with sides next to your bed?
    I guess for me, they need you for such a short time in their lives, I look back now and miss those days where they were bubbas and slept by my side.
    Good luck!

  13. I know you aren't a fan of crying it out, but have you ever really tried it. It's ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE for a week. But they really do realize that you aren't come and they might as well go back to sleep without your help. I thought I was going to lose my mind when we had to do cry it out with our son, but it was the best thing we could have done for him because he now sleeps 12-13 hours in his crib in his room without making a peep. It might be hard on your other kids for that week too, but I'm sure they all be back to normal after things settle down. I definitely thinking crying it out would be worth your time. It never hurt a kid to cry!!


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